PMS Changes Everything
So, I'm PMS'ing. I dare anyone to try to tell me that PMS is a figment of my imagination. When I'm PMSing things that normally don't matter can make me cry... I scream at my boss for little reason. Well, there is always a reason to yell at my boss, but 3 out of 4 weeks, I don't feel the desire to yell, I just keep on working and leave him alone. But for 2 days out of the 4th week, I will yell about his general shitiness as a manager, remind him of all of the things he has failed to do, things I need him to do so that I can do what I need to do...
And I am going to a Mother-Daughter banquet with my sister, my neice, and my mother... Which wasn't a problem, until I started PMS'ing and realized that it will on be Mother's Day weekend... Fortunately, I will not be PMS'ing then, so hopefully I won't be freaked out like I was today when I realized what I was getting into... My sister helped tons by pointing out that I wouldn't be the only non-mother there, there were also going to be all the daughters, like my neice. Who is 12. She also thought it would help to point out that there would be lots of grandmothers and children of all ages. OK, so that is cool, I can handle it. I just really hope it isn't Mom-Centric (who am I kidding? It is Mother's Day weekend. It is the 'Mother-Daughter Banquet.' When my husband heard the message from my sister inviting me, he didn't know she had also asked our mom, so he said "And who will you be going as? Your sister's daughter or your neice's mom?" I understand where he's coming from, when I got the invitation I felt like reminding her that I wasn't qualified.) I just don't want it to be all sappy and about the gloriousness of motherhood. I love my mom and totally want to honor her. I'm cool with being a daughter. Just not with the mom thing. If it were today I wouldn't be too cool with it.
Some board friends say they like to think of Mother's Day as a celebration for all women, that we all mother in one way or another. I don't feel that way- I am not a mother. And when people say "Happy Mother's Day" to me I want to snap their necks. It makes me totally understand why Jewish folks wouldn't want to hear "Merry Christmas" every time they turn around in December, and why I am completely on board with "Happy Holidays". These campaigns to make everyone say "Merry Christmas" make me crazy! Back off! Stop forcing your beliefs on everyone else.
My FIL happens to be one of those who thinks all women are mothers. Last M'sD he insisted on telling me Happy M'sD like 10 times, and I kept saying "You do realize that I'm not a mother, right?" It just pissed me off. (For the record, I'm also against anything that minimizes someone's accomplishments in an effort not to hurt others feelings- some schools no longer publish an honor roll, because it stigmatizes those who didn't make it... well, you know what? Study harder.) It pisses me off because I think it is a crock to call me a mother, and because he will not get off my ass about giving him some grandkids. Which makes me love being CF even more. Screw him.
Since I started this post I've been through at least 3 distinct emotional phases: weepy, indignant, PISSED OFF. Yes, PMS does indeed change everything. Over and over and over.
And I am going to a Mother-Daughter banquet with my sister, my neice, and my mother... Which wasn't a problem, until I started PMS'ing and realized that it will on be Mother's Day weekend... Fortunately, I will not be PMS'ing then, so hopefully I won't be freaked out like I was today when I realized what I was getting into... My sister helped tons by pointing out that I wouldn't be the only non-mother there, there were also going to be all the daughters, like my neice. Who is 12. She also thought it would help to point out that there would be lots of grandmothers and children of all ages. OK, so that is cool, I can handle it. I just really hope it isn't Mom-Centric (who am I kidding? It is Mother's Day weekend. It is the 'Mother-Daughter Banquet.' When my husband heard the message from my sister inviting me, he didn't know she had also asked our mom, so he said "And who will you be going as? Your sister's daughter or your neice's mom?" I understand where he's coming from, when I got the invitation I felt like reminding her that I wasn't qualified.) I just don't want it to be all sappy and about the gloriousness of motherhood. I love my mom and totally want to honor her. I'm cool with being a daughter. Just not with the mom thing. If it were today I wouldn't be too cool with it.
Some board friends say they like to think of Mother's Day as a celebration for all women, that we all mother in one way or another. I don't feel that way- I am not a mother. And when people say "Happy Mother's Day" to me I want to snap their necks. It makes me totally understand why Jewish folks wouldn't want to hear "Merry Christmas" every time they turn around in December, and why I am completely on board with "Happy Holidays". These campaigns to make everyone say "Merry Christmas" make me crazy! Back off! Stop forcing your beliefs on everyone else.
My FIL happens to be one of those who thinks all women are mothers. Last M'sD he insisted on telling me Happy M'sD like 10 times, and I kept saying "You do realize that I'm not a mother, right?" It just pissed me off. (For the record, I'm also against anything that minimizes someone's accomplishments in an effort not to hurt others feelings- some schools no longer publish an honor roll, because it stigmatizes those who didn't make it... well, you know what? Study harder.) It pisses me off because I think it is a crock to call me a mother, and because he will not get off my ass about giving him some grandkids. Which makes me love being CF even more. Screw him.
Since I started this post I've been through at least 3 distinct emotional phases: weepy, indignant, PISSED OFF. Yes, PMS does indeed change everything. Over and over and over.
posted by Rooshie at 14:00
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